Unforgiveness is a bitter root that can be deadly and is often unsuspecting and seductive in its motives. I know because I have had to deal with this from time to time. Rarely do we realize how deep it runs or how much we truly need to forgive and let go. But the truth is you can’t get until you learn to start (for)giving.
Sometimes we fool ourselves into thinking we are somehow hurting the other person, or that we have a leg up on the situation by "withholding" our love, support and forgiveness. Other times we silently believe we are holding on to that person by refusing to forgive. Once we learn to look at the world with a wider lens (rather than from our own viewpoint), we will learn that everything isn't about us and we can release some of that powerlessness and be freed up to be powerful.

Once a person decides they want to be free, God's unchanging hand will help them walk in love. It also helps to consider that the other person is living life (perhaps to the full), while we are stuck, and unable to gain any kind of lasting victory. This proves that forgiveness isn’t about others, it is a gift you give to yourself. You'll have a happier holiday season by making the decision to starting forgiving every offense known and unknown.

Life is short, live well.